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Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
is sissy and offensive word in bdsm?
05/30/2012
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Contributor: Chami Chami
I don't think so but that's just me.
05/30/2012
Contributor: M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
No, I don't think the word Sissy is offensive in BDSM. Those who are into forced feminization refer to themselves as Sissies, so I think being referred to by that name is part of their kink. While it may play into their desire for humiliation, I do not think they would be offended by it.
05/31/2012
Contributor: Envoutes Envoutes
Not if it's being reclaimed by someone, I don't think so. At least in the context of a BDSM scene, I doubt it would be seen as offensive unless someone personally felt that way.
06/02/2012
Contributor: Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
maybe depend on the person
06/04/2012
Contributor: Internet Brat Internet Brat
I agree with Envoutes.

I guess it would only really be offensive if used in a negative way against someone who wasn't okay with it, like most labels.
06/07/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I think it's a turn on for some.
06/07/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I've heard mixed opinions -- some people who are completely ok with other kinks think the "sissy" part implies that being feminine/a woman is degrading, so they aren't ok with that.

Right now I think "sissy" is degrading in a similar way that "slut" is -- not ok outside of the bedroom, but if you're into that in bed, more power to you?
06/13/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Nope, though it depends from person to person
06/13/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I definitely wouldn't call it "offensive" although it can be degrading in many scenarios. Definitely not something I would be/am offended by, though!
06/15/2012
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I guess some people may find it offensive, but I personally don't think it really is.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
I don't like the word sissy in any setting. And I'm not even sure why.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Aurora Borealis Aurora Borealis
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
is sissy and offensive word in bdsm?
Not particularly
06/16/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I think it's very dependent on the person and situation - I have a partner who has had the word used against them in a very hurtful and derogatory way, and I can't imagine them being okay with it in a BDSM scene context. If people are comfy with using it in their own play, though, I don't see a problem. I'm okay with all sorts of words in scene that I would never use or let be used towards me in other situations.
06/23/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
All words in BDSM can be offensive to some. It absolutely depends on the person. Some love being called generally offensive terms, others hate it.
06/27/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
yes
06/27/2012
Contributor: Faeya Faeya
When Dragon's sub femme side comes out, that's how she identifies, so in that setting, no, I don't think it's offensive. However, I also refuse to use the word as an 'insult' in the vanilla sense because I feel it's offensive in that situation. It's all in how it's used.
07/02/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
Like SubmissiveFeminist said, all words can be offensive. It depends on context.
07/06/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
Precisely what SubmissiveFeminist and Boyqueen said.
07/06/2012
Contributor: PeachCandy PeachCandy
No, I don't think so
07/06/2012
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
is sissy and offensive word in bdsm?
Good God No! We need to get over the tip toe lets all sing and dance around the love fire crap before we regulate ourselves out of being able to communicate! We will make it so all we can do is point and grunt one of these days! Someone says shit that could probably be offensive to me every day and if they ever stop saying it just because it is I will punch them square in the dick!
07/09/2012
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
IMO, if a guy likes to wear girls underwear, heels etc yes. And he would like the label.
If a man didn't like the label for whatever reason then a bad word.

And if a man likes peggingby his wife doesn't necessarily mean he's a sissy. Some pegging couples just like the switch and added dimension to their sex life.
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