I think often "vanilla" is in the eye of the beholder, and it is certainly NOT a dirty word. Some people are turned on my gentle sex with little "kink" aspect and I totally respect that, IF they are open and understanding of people who have and enjoy other experiences in bed.

Some people think oral sex is "kinky." I think it's a given, for the most part. But, some people only do it on occasion or never.

I'm not going to rate the percentage of our sex that I think is "not vanilla." We have a very busy and varied sex life. Sometimes there's some bondage and light to moderate impact play, usually there are toys (if I'm going to come, there are toys...) sometimes there is an element of Ravishment Play. Sometimes it's a quickie with Missionary PIV (after oral sex, and oral in the middle we always have oral sex) and some work to get me to come and then when he comes, we're pretty much finished. We did that this morning, then he went to the bathroom, and I had to come again. He was laughing, because when he came back in the room, I said, "I know you really had to go. But, I wasn't quite finished. I needed an other one." He said, "I know I heard you from the bathroom." Usually, we continue with all kinds of sexual play and often some anal sex after I come, but I have my period, and this morning was just a quickie.

It's usually varied. No percentages for us. less