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Contributor: FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
How long since the first time you ever tried BDSM?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Never tried it
evanescentowl , eri86 , Eugler , Thong man
4  (12%)
Less than a year
1-2 years
Rarity , Robespierrethecat , Hipposterous , Boyfriend , matry , Megglelynn , HannahPanda , harvest
8  (24%)
2-4 years
SMichelle , Gdom , solitudinarian , Kitten B. , K101 , FrustratedFemme , lalalalove , SecretKinksters , Miss L
9  (27%)
5-10 years
Hallmar82 , Katelyn , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Pixel , novanilla , SailorJulyxo , kistme , AngeliqueBouiser , NekoMama , TheHardOne
10  (30%)
10-20 years
Dixiemomma
1  (3%)
20+ years
FieryRed
1  (3%)
Total votes: 33
Poll is closed
06/18/2013
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Contributor: evanescentowl evanescentowl
I was in a BDSM relationship in the past, if that counts, but I am not currently in one.
06/18/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We've been in a D/s relationship with some bondage thrown in for 9-10 years.
06/18/2013
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
3-4+ years (I suppose it depends on whether some of the lighter kink we did at first counts).
06/18/2013
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
on and off since i was a teen currently in do a lot off BDSM play but not really a D/s relationship.... equal grounds until it comes time to play
06/18/2013
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
It's been 8 years since my first scene.
06/19/2013
Contributor: Kitten B. Kitten B.
3 years now.
06/19/2013
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I've never tried it. But there are aspects of it I find appealing. More just the bondage part, any I'm leaning towards light bondage.

Maybe some playful topping and bottoming, but that is it.
06/19/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by FrustratedFemme
How long since the first time you ever tried BDSM?
2-4 years is all.
06/19/2013
Contributor: FieryRed FieryRed
Well, it seems I hold the record so far. I had my first sex partner at age 17, and he tied my wrists with his white silk tie one night. I'm closing in on 40 pretty swiftly, now.
06/19/2013
Contributor: FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
I'm not sure if the really light kink in my first few relationships counts, but even if I only count my current relationship, it's been about two years. (If I do count the really light kink, then it's been four. I'm eighteen now, so you can do the math. I started way too young.)
06/19/2013
Contributor: Hipposterous Hipposterous
I first physically (and consensually) tried BDSM almost exactly a year ago. Right before my 19th birthday, and my 20th birthday is next week.
06/19/2013
Contributor: Boyfriend Boyfriend
1-2 yrs
06/19/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I was 17 when I started, and I'm 22 now, so 5 years!
06/19/2013
Contributor: SailorJulyxo SailorJulyxo
Almost six years officially. I first heard of D/s in a newspaper article when I was about... maybe 12? I didn't really understand, however. When I was 14-15, my girl and I talked about D/s but didn't go further as we were teenagers. On our honeymoon night, I collared her and that was in 2007. We've been together ever since, and in a D/s relationship ever since. ^_^
06/27/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
I've been fantasizing about BDSM for 25+ years now but never had a good chance to really try it.
06/27/2013
Contributor: lalalalove lalalalove
Quote:
Originally posted by FrustratedFemme
How long since the first time you ever tried BDSM?
Bedroom play for about 3-4 years, 24/7 lifestyle for just a couple months now.
07/25/2013
Contributor: lalalalove lalalalove
Quote:
Originally posted by FrustratedFemme
How long since the first time you ever tried BDSM?
Incorporated it in the bedroom for over 3 years, brought it into our lifestyle 24/7 this year.
08/15/2013
Contributor: Thong man Thong man
My wife and I only do some light restraints. Handcuffs, silk ties,...
09/17/2013
Contributor: cmm cmm
Quote:
Originally posted by FrustratedFemme
How long since the first time you ever tried BDSM?
Only about a month or two now.
09/20/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
3 years, I started when I started dating my man. He introduced it slowly to our relationship and has progressed very nicely.
09/21/2013
Contributor: Glinteye Glinteye
It's been maybe around 3 years, and it's great!
10/12/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
2 years ago.
10/14/2013
Contributor: harvest harvest
only one year so far here, and loving it.
10/14/2013
Contributor: TheHardOne TheHardOne
Almost 8 years.
10/14/2013