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Contributor: ScarletFox ScarletFox
I have a close friend who I confided in that I was submissive.

For the last year now, I have been in a LDR with the many who is my Dom and the two of them while they have tried to get along do not. My friend sees not much in my Dom other then that he has what she calls an 'Alpha Male' personality and she is worried that he is going to abuse me because I am submissive because that happened in another relationship in the past.

I am trying to find a way to explain things to her so that she understands that I am choosing this time to submit to this man and that he is not 'abusing me' 'walking all over me' or as she put it 'that he snaps his fingers and I just say Yes Sir no matter what he asks of me'. But I am just not sure how as I am still in those stages where it gets me a little worked up to think about it. So I thought I would seek some advice from others.
04/15/2013
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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by ScarletFox
I have a close friend who I confided in that I was submissive.

For the last year now, I have been in a LDR with the many who is my Dom and the two of them while they have tried to get along do not. My friend sees not much in my Dom other then ... more
Have you talked to your Sir about this? What does He think?
Have you explained to your friend that you have negotiated limits and that you have the power to say no? That your safeword extends to all areas of your submission? (It does, right?) Hopefully you have a very open line of communication with your Sir that would allow you the freedom to communicate malcontent or other problems on your end. Have you explained this to your friend?
Do you have access to a MAsT or PEX group in your area that holds regular meetings? If so, perhaps you could attend and bring your friend along to meet others who are in successful, healthy D/s relationships and learn a bit about how they work?
04/18/2013