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Choking......would you do it?

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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
Yes I would
05/08/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Oxygen deprivation will cause brain damage, period. There are many types of kink that are okay, but choking is one where you must have absolute faith in your Dom to know what he or she is doing. Frankly, I don't trust anyone enough to put my brain in their hands...except maybe a brain surgeon.
05/10/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Not into that type of thing.
05/10/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I'd like to try this... very carefully. But I think it would scare my SO to do it to me. XD
05/10/2012
Contributor: cheesewizz cheesewizz
Quote:
Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
that depends entirely on how much trust you have for each other.
05/10/2012
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I voted, Hell No! but in reality I am open to discussing most things. But choking?? Hands down, NO!
05/10/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Not really something I'm interested in doing/receiving. My partner likes it sometimes when I firmly grasp her neck/throat, but there's not any actual squeezing/choking involved in that.
05/10/2012
Contributor: M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
If you are not comfortable with being choked, then this is NOT an activity you should engage in. And, hopefully, your partner will understand and respect your feelings.
05/10/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
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Originally posted by Arch600
Nobody should feel compelled to do something they're uncomfortable with for the sake of their partner. There is a significant difference between doing something new - experiencing the discomfort and thrill of the unknown - and doing something ... more
This. A million times... THIS.
05/11/2012
Contributor: AnnMorette AnnMorette
I love choking and breathplay but a trusted partner is a must
05/11/2012
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
Choking scares me, because I have asthma
05/12/2012
Contributor: xxxdiannaooo xxxdiannaooo
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Originally posted by panda555
Just have to be careful and all is well
make sure you trust the person to stop lol
05/12/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I wouldn't mind having a little extra pressure around my throat--and my boyfriend has actually playfully "choked" me before and it's turned me on a little, just because of the display of "power" it is. I haven't decided when I'll mention it to him yet, though... And I definitely wouldn't want it to be too serious. I don't really want to be choked, but I like the idea!
05/13/2012
Contributor: noname3 noname3
Quote:
Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
I do know people who are into choking. That being said... while i encourage you to try things with your partner if you are completely uncomfortable trying something like this than you should NOT try it. My suggestion would be to tell your partner that choking is a HARD LIMIT for you and offer something else you might be more into trying.
05/21/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
If you're not comfortable about it, DON'T let him do it!!! If he wants you to have fun during sex, tell him to work on his foreplay skills instead.
05/21/2012
Contributor: Poophammer Poophammer
Actually, we do this. Usually, though, she wants to be choked
05/21/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm willing to try anything with my man once....but I don't know your SO and how much you trust him. I guess in your case, it would depend on your relationship
05/21/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I wouldn't do anything that I'm uncomfortable with.
05/21/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
If your not comfortable with doing it then don't and if you decide to you need to have some way of letting him know when enough is enough.
05/21/2012
Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
I actually tell my man to choke me sometimes, if the mood is right of course
05/21/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
my bf said he would enjoy this to but it kinda creeps me out
05/21/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
Yes I've done it. And my partner doesn't press against my larynx, he presses against my jugular so it just constricts blood flow slowly. it sounds freaky but it makes me feel slightly light headed and makes the rush of blood back really pleasurable. It can be weird and uncomfortable but I completely trust my partner
05/21/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
I'd do it.
05/22/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I love it, but I do not do it to the point of passing out, just for the control and dominance and rush of making it difficult to breathe. It's fantastic.
05/22/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by Nirelan
My man wants to choke me while we have sex.....not actually hurt me but he wants that rush that it's possible I guess. I don't understand this at all and I quite frankly am not up for it or interested at all and VERY uncomfortable that he ... more
05/22/2012
Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
Done it. I enjoy it a LOT.
05/22/2012
Contributor: Envoutes Envoutes
If he ever wanted to be dominant with me in such a way, I would at least try it. Though, because I am much smaller than he is, I feel like that could go very wrong very quickly lol. And I personally just don't really want to be hurt, like, ever. It's not my thing. He, on the other hand, I know wants to be choked. And I am not sure if I'm comfortable doing that to him. But I will try it, slowly.

You also shouldn't feel like you /have/ to do something you don't want to do. Surely if they're a decent person enough, they will understand perfectly well that choking just isn't for you. Don't feel pressured into it. But if you do want to at least /try/ it, then go slowly and carefully.
05/22/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I wouldn't go as far as choking, but I like the feeling of a hand around my neck. My boyfriend is good at applying enough pressure to make make breathing difficult but not impossible. The neck is such an intimate body part to me and I love that I can trust him enough to do it.

Don't do it if you're not comfortable. I have had a prior experience with I guy I did not trust at all and it terrified me. He was a jerk though.

Discuss it, talk about your limits. You might want to try light pressure rather than choking, or you might not want to try anything - both are perfectly ok. If you decide to partake in choking, be sure to research the risks.
05/23/2012
Contributor: palindromic palindromic
I'm a fan of minor breathplay, but it's definitely not for everyone. If you're uncomfortable, make it known. Do not do something you feel unsure about or that you feel is unsafe.
05/23/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
I voted, Hell No! but in reality I am open to discussing most things. But choking?? Hands down, NO!
I think that is how I'm feeling, I'm going to start out very small with just spanking and things of the such
05/23/2012