I wish I could help you. We are just a vanilla couple. Closest step that direction is some fun love taps in the rear. No cuffs, etc. I'm sure there are a few members who could start dialogue. Lol, "Superfreak" by Rick James is playing on Pandora now. less

Oh I'm not looking for details, not in that sense at least.

When asked what BDSM means to me I usually refer them to my back room where I have all my toys.

BDSM is a style of play for me, a setup for a SCENE not a lifestyle I choose to live.

I'm not into "Bondage" but I'm good at the craft and so it fits into my play style.
I'm Versatile and have no desire to be a persons long term slave or have a slave of my own to dominate or look over.
I get no personal pleasure in hurting people unless they enjoy it, in which case the pain is for them not me. To much of a Nurse I guess.
And I'm not into pain for myself.

So for me that is my BDSM. An aspect I enjoy form time to time. With whips, chains and metal frames. To tease and please and have a great time.

What is your BDSM? less

This is copied from my bio. Hopefully it answers your question.

"I'm part of the BDSM community, though I don't actually identify with any of the given labels. I would say I am somewhere between a switch and a submissive, though I hate that term. I don't like the idea of gags, severe pain, drawing blood, or humiliation. I am not interested in finding a partner or playmate, and am in what I would consider a type of 24/7 relationship. I have a Dom, who I think is amazing. He does not control me or most aspects of my life, including my finances, however our D/S relationship does affect us on a 24/7 basis. I need his consent to engage in sexual activity as well as to orgasm, even with him, and the emotional connection we share is much different than I have experienced or witnessed with any other relationship. Our punishments are more intrinsic than anything else, which is nice. He does try to reward me frequently, and I try to take care of him and see that he is rewarded for certain things as well. While it's not a type of punishment for us we do enjoy things like extended teasing, and even engaging in orgasm denial. Should you have any suggestions for teasing, different ways to touch each other, or rewards please feel free to PM them to me. I am collared, which is something I find very comforting and exciting." less

Oh I'm not looking for details, not in that sense at least.

When asked what BDSM means to me I usually refer them to my back room where I have all my toys.

BDSM is a style of play for me, a setup for a SCENE not a lifestyle I choose to live.

I'm not into "Bondage" but I'm good at the craft and so it fits into my play style.
I'm Versatile and have no desire to be a persons long term slave or have a slave of my own to dominate or look over.
I get no personal pleasure in hurting people unless they enjoy it, in which case the pain is for them not me. To much of a Nurse I guess.
And I'm not into pain for myself.

So for me that is my BDSM. An aspect I enjoy form time to time. With whips, chains and metal frames. To tease and please and have a great time.

What is your BDSM? less

This is copied from my bio. Hopefully it answers your question.

"I'm part of the BDSM community, though I don't actually identify with any of the given labels. I would say I am somewhere between a switch and a submissive, though I hate that term. I don't like the idea of gags, severe pain, drawing blood, or humiliation. I am not interested in finding a partner or playmate, and am in what I would consider a type of 24/7 relationship. I have a Dom, who I think is amazing. He does not control me or most aspects of my life, including my finances, however our D/S relationship does affect us on a 24/7 basis. I need his consent to engage in sexual activity as well as to orgasm, even with him, and the emotional connection we share is much different than I have experienced or witnessed with any other relationship. Our punishments are more intrinsic than anything else, which is nice. He does try to reward me frequently, and I try to take care of him and see that he is rewarded for certain things as well. While it's not a type of punishment for us we do enjoy things like extended teasing, and even engaging in orgasm denial. Should you have any suggestions for teasing, different ways to touch each other, or rewards please feel free to PM them to me. I am collared, which is something I find very comforting and exciting." less

To me it means extended foreplay, being attentive to your partners needs, wants, desires and mental space. It means teasing, taunting and pleasing in an unconventional but equally pleasant manner. Finally, it means to me being in on a private, more intimate, secret that no one else has any idea about.

Sure, the letters BDSM have a more direct meaning and to some they only mean one thing pain. Others might feel that it is only about control, and it can be, however, I choose to see the entire spectrum of what can encompass this vast field and use its various parts to bring sexual satisfaction to my partner when we have chosen to engage in this manner. less