"“Fear can be a potent aphrodisiac.”"
Separation is Key.
For a long time, I considered myself a switch. Some may remember my mentioning of that within one of the articles I did some time ago for EdenCafe. However, when I was recently put into a position of being the Domme in a scene, I found that it almost came natural to me. I felt more at home in my own skin at that point, and it just seemed to flow very well. So, first off, I would like to introduce you to my life as a beginning Domme.
My boots play a very significant role in me switching from my normal every day life into that of a Domme, as I try to separate my life outside the bedroom and in it. Usually during scenes I wear my black or gray knee high boots, and a pair of black skintight pants. Somewhere in between, a steel boned corset. I have a rather large corset fetish, and I own about five or six of them myself. I wear them every time I get a chance.
This may sound like a very simple separation, but it is the easiest way for me to switch from Vanilla life into my role within the BDSM one. Having said such, you will rarely find me wearing boots outside the sanctity of my home. I think that the separation of the two is very important, because those who live just vanilla lives, might have a harder time dealing with someone who does not hide that they are a dominant in public.
Growing up, I was never able to explore the part of me that was into the lifestyle. I grew up in a very traditional home. My father was born in 1937 and my mother in 1946, so I grew up with the old time values where the husband went to work and the wife was a homemaker. Even through the harder times of our economy, my father was the type of man who made this work. He was always the strong one in our family, and for a long time I fell into these beliefs that this was how the world was.
It wasn't until I went to college that my eyes were really opened to how the world was. It was at that point I was able to be introduced to the BDSM world, and I haven't looked back since.
My boots play a very significant role in me switching from my normal every day life into that of a Domme, as I try to separate my life outside the bedroom and in it. Usually during scenes I wear my black or gray knee high boots, and a pair of black skintight pants. Somewhere in between, a steel boned corset. I have a rather large corset fetish, and I own about five or six of them myself. I wear them every time I get a chance.
This may sound like a very simple separation, but it is the easiest way for me to switch from Vanilla life into my role within the BDSM one. Having said such, you will rarely find me wearing boots outside the sanctity of my home. I think that the separation of the two is very important, because those who live just vanilla lives, might have a harder time dealing with someone who does not hide that they are a dominant in public.
Growing up, I was never able to explore the part of me that was into the lifestyle. I grew up in a very traditional home. My father was born in 1937 and my mother in 1946, so I grew up with the old time values where the husband went to work and the wife was a homemaker. Even through the harder times of our economy, my father was the type of man who made this work. He was always the strong one in our family, and for a long time I fell into these beliefs that this was how the world was.
It wasn't until I went to college that my eyes were really opened to how the world was. It was at that point I was able to be introduced to the BDSM world, and I haven't looked back since.
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