Penetration, cocks or dildos or even fingers, in my own body is not high on my list, I admit. While I love to be the one doing the penetrating, it is a rare day that I want – or request – it from my lovers.

So I was skeptical to receive this harness, whose claim to fame is the ability to perfectly position a dildo for the wearer of the harness. But oh, am I glad to have it in my collection.

First, the harness is seriously high quality. Expensive, yes, but beautiful leather and worth the investment. It arrived in a black velvet bag. My first impression was of how incredibly well-made it is, a work of art, a serious piece of craftsmanship. Unlike my other leather harnesses, it feels precise and lovingly made.

It has a lot of straps and flaps, bells and whistles. I untangled it all and tried it on.

It sits low, really low on my hips, which I love; even lower after it is fully tightened. It features D-rings instead of locking buckles, which I actually prefer in a leather harness because leather stretches and the harness can end up between buckle sizes and uncomfortable.

Before taking the new harness out onto a date, I took her for a test drive.

I strapped on my favorite cock, whose weight balanced perfectly on my hips (very much the tell of a good harness, both by placement, where it falls, and grip, how well it is held in place).

It felt comfortable enough, so I lubed up and slid the second cock in place, the one that goes inside me.

Wow.

After a fabulous jerk-off session, I decided I was confident enough to try it out with a lover.

With someone else, though, things got trickier. I liked the feel of the cock inside me (surprisingly!), but I fell into my same-old-moves of thrusting and clenching, and I actually popped it out of me a few times, which was somewhat embarrassing. The girl I was fucking was patient, however, and particularly liked the ways that I was extra-stimulated. She said I wasn’t usually so into my own pleasure during our strap-on sex, which is true; usually, I am more focused on her. This time, though, it was easy to get lost in the sensation of the low harness against my clit, and the dildo inside me.

Part of the problem with the internal cock falling out was that it just wasn’t tight enough. It took some practice, but I’ve figured it out, and I’m glad I have; it’s added a new aspect of play to my sex life.

Let me break it down for ya:

PROS: Beautiful, sturdy leather; D-ring buckles, which I prefer on leather because it stretches; extremely comfortable, rides low. The whammy: with this harness, you can use two cocks – one inside the wearer, one for the receiver. Particularly excellent for those who are female bodied!

CONS: Awkward at first to get it to sit right, but once you do, it is lovely. The leather (while beautiful!) is thick and not particularly comfortable to wear under clothes for long periods. It’s a bedroom harness, not so much a packing harness. It is fairly time-consuming to set up, but don’t forget the payoff!

MAINTENANCE: The material is leather, so it will need to be washed with gentle soap and water and occasionally polished with a good leather cleaner. Treat it well, and it should last a long time.

HOW I RECOMMEND IT: In the bedroom, not so much a going-out-packing harness (too bulky under clothes). Hang it on your harness rack near your bed (what? You don’t have one? Get one!), and break it out when you have some time to strap on and set up. Go slow and easy, and enjoy!

WHO WILL WANT IT: Female-bodied folks who want the feel of penetration while they are entering someone else.

Bend over, bois and boys and girls and grrrrls.