Explore or refresh the basics of BDSM with this simple infographic.
BDSM
BDSM is a Game
Every action in the kinky play of BDSM is namely a PLAY. Each party plays a role, no more, no less. It's a life-like experience, but it's also a scene.
BDSM is Trust
Power exchange, a.k.a. submitting yourself or taking control of someone is very responsible. Only once the trust is mutual and complete, a perfect union is possible
Not so obvious bonuses of BDSM
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Stress release
it’s a whole lot of fun and relaxation, which allows to release all negative energy
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Safety
BDSM gives a possibility of reliving your boldest fantasies almost as in reality, with no physical or psychological harm
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Renouncement/
acceptance of responsibilitypeople with a lot of responsibilities will often crave submission to someone and vice versa
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Absolute trust
the feeling of being controlled/controlling requires profound confidence in the partner
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New experiences
one of the most wonderful features of sex is that it can always amaze you, open new horizons
Rules
of BDSM scene
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Make a
"safe-word"if the safe word is spoken, the scene must stop. ALWAYS respect the safe-word
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Stick to the character
don’t ruin your fantasy by steeping out of the role or interrupting the scene
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Be careful
never experiment without having a consent
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Be honest
don’t hide anything, be open-minded and open-hearted
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Communicate
talk about your preferences and explore each other’s needs and desires
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Be respectful
it looks like the Sub is serving the Dom, but in reality they are serving each other
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Be realistic
respect your bodies’
abilities; end the scene
with wanting more, not
wishing there had been less -
Be patient
if your partner needs time, don’t rush him/her
Roles of BDSM
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Submissive empowers Dominant
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Dominant is responsible for Submissive
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Guide to BDSM play
Sensation play
Creating new experiences through manipulation of the five senses
Flogging
Spanking with special implements as a sign of playful punishment or reward.
Bondage
Restraints (Verbal or Physical) are placed on the body to restrict movement and senses
Conversation starters
What to say when trying to initiate a BDSM play for the first time?
- It’s nothing extraordinary, everybody does that
- It’s a possibility to try something new
- We can have an amazing adventure
- It’s just a play
- I want to be punished, I’m a bad boy/girl
- That would be a way to spice things up
- I’d like you to be in charge now
- I am curious, aren’t you?
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